Millennials are infamous for our “hook-up” culture. The media says we don’t know how to commit. They say we buy new instead of fix the old. They say we don’t love. As a millennial myself, in the prime age of the notorious college hook-up culture, I have to wonder…have we ruined “love” with our millennial ways and technology advances? Or is it simply evolving with the times? Maybe the older generations just don’t recognize it in our new culture so they think we destroyed it (but who raised us?!).
I don’t think you can destroy love. I think it’s quite possible that it is more present than ever. But it has most definitely evolved since the romantic comedies we saw growing up and the classic tales of princesses and their brave prince’s. And it may also look different from the times when our grandparents and parents fell in love. So the more important question is how has love changed? What does it look like? What does love carry through time and what changes with each generation? Is love synonymous with commitment? And of course, we are settling down later in life now and have more options for potential lovers than ever before at the swipe of a finger. With that in mind, what does love look like on our millennial ridden campus? Or, is love dead?
This is an introductory blog post in a series of posts and videos known as ‘Love is dead?’, which will explore love culture in the millennial era and Towson University’s campus.
‘Love is dead?’ will ask questions to groups of students and faculty to explore such questions and the posts will detail results and ideas. Students will answer the following list of questions in a questionnaire form as well as video interviews.
- How do students show love?
- What experiences have defined their current views on love?
- How do they see it in their future?
- As a generation are we pessimistic, optimistic, or “realistic” about love?
- How do they think it has changed since their grandparents and parents time?
- Why do we have the “hookup” culture?
- What does the “hookup” culture mean for us?
- What does the media say about our generation in regards to love , sexuality, and hooking up?
- What has the “old school” love older generations refer to… been replaced with?
- Why are relationships and feelings taboo?
- Are we growing more cynical?
- More independent?
- Or are we just waiting longer to even consider settling down?
- Does this prolong finding love?
- What does this say about our view on love/relationships/marriage/commitment? Is it changing? How do we see these things?
- Does waiting make it more meaningful? Or as a generation are we less able to commit and truly love?
- What proportion of friends are single, in relationships?
- How long have you been single or “in a relationship”? Why do you think this is?
- How does technology help and hinder the love world?
- Do you think love is “dead”? Why or why not?
To participate in this series, fill out the quick survey and/or in depth questionnaire.
If you would like to participate in the video series, please sign up here: https://docs.google.com/a/students.towson.edu/forms/d/1jz32itAx7gtBR_hczcnBITAC6tOwcLGhA2nmeQeIEZk/edit?usp=drive_web
I hope love isn’t dead. I hope each human being on the planet can make a happily ever after for themselves. Whether that is full of self-love, love from friends and family, or/and even with a significant other. But, I have to be honest: the fairy tale ending doesn’t seem possible at times with our divorce rates and minimal dating. Maybe a fairy tale ending is overrated. I know I don’t want to be saved by someone galloping in on a white horse, sword in hand. I love adventure. I want to ride the horse and go to war. I can save myself. And in today’s culture, we’re empowering women like never before to carry their own swords and fight their own battles. Maybe we just need to update the story.
Fairy tale? No. But a partner in crime who can make you feel alive in a way that only “love” can do? I don’t think that’s overrated at all. I think it’s something most of us strive for. And that’s a story worth writing.